Welcome 2018!

The blog is a source of angst for me. I don’t want to give it up, yet I don’t feel I can publish much of the content I sit down to share. It’s not that anything is bad; it’s more that I am blunt and brutally honest with my words and that words hurt people whether I mean to intentionally or not. I go back to the words my grandmother always said- if you can’t say anything nice (or that won’t hurt someone’s feelings- you probably shouldn’t say anything at all.  That’s a lesson I’ve learned the hard way many times in my life.

2017 has been a great year for me personally. I set out to make it The Year of Alison and I succeeded. I spent a lot of time really learning about myself and to love myself fully. Seems so silly to see those words in print, but it’s so true. Many hours of journaling and re-writing the inner monologue rolling in my brain. Why is it when women are confident they’re seen as conceited when men are just seen as confident? It’s something I still struggle with- owning my own confidence all of the time. Should be simple yet it’s not. I have learned and continue to learn so much about myself. I’m carrying my momentum straight into the new year.

That’s not to say 2017 didn’t have it’s share of struggles. I definitely have many things to continue to work on. Our family has seen loss of loved ones, loss of jobs, and several new opportunities that have challenged both mindset and comfort zones. Who would have ever thought our world would revolve less around basketball and circle back to agriculture? Some things are blessings in disguise. Those blessings don’t make hurt feelings any easier to process, but it doesn’t feel bad to be able to say so long to those who don’t always realize the full value of a person’s work ethic and dedication to the jobs they fulfilled.  That definitely gives one a sense of self-satisfaction.

We continue to grow in age and wisdom. Though I don’t mind getting older, I sit and watch my kids with awe and a little bit of sadness as they get ready to enter the world of adulting. Time as flown by us. I still don’t know what I want to do when I grow up.  I really don’t have any intention of growing up. Until then I will keep playing in the giant sandbox of life and keep encouraging others to work hard, give their best, and remain positive regardless the stuff life throws at us.

10 Things I’ve learned in the last year:

  1. A good therapist is well worth the cost
  2. Positive energy brings positive energy. Surround yourself with it. Remove the negative, even if it means stepping away from long-time relationships.
  3. Yoga makes life better.
  4. A good massage therapist is well worth the cost
  5. Eat good food. Fueling your body with the right nutrients makes you feel good.
  6. Walking away from something you’ve done a long long time is losing a part of yourself. Expect to grieve.
  7. Always set goals. A goal setting journal helps. (I love my Smart Life Push Journal)
  8. Act like a kid every day. Splash in puddles. Eat ice cream. Be silly. Tell corny jokes. Play!
  9. Laugh!
  10. Be the best version of yourself every day. Believe in your abilities. Give it your all. You won’t regret it.

10 Traits of Happy People

Life is all about perspective. You can change your mood simply by changing your perspective on a situation.  I’ve found myself in a bit of a rut lately.  I’ve lost my spunky, positivity and have fallen into some dark habits of self-doubt and loathing. Part of it is sleep deprivation and jet lag, another part from stress of upcoming events, and part feeling as if summer is flying away. Summer is my time to rejuvenate. I need to enjoy it!

So as I do whenever I’m seeking some profound wisdom, I went to Pinterest to find some memes or something happy. You know what? It worked. I came away feeling peppy and lighter and found a new podcast to fill my heart with positive messages and guidance. And in looking and listening I came away with a positive attitude and mindset that I realized is always inside there, but was just taking a break.

In completing my happiness research I found 10 universal traits of happy people. They’re consistent across the board. Do you have to have them all to be happy? No. Do you feel them all the time? Nope. Turns out it’s all about perspective.